Saturday, September 27, 2008

Getting An Ex Back Without Losing Your Mind

So you and your gf or bf are not together any more, but you really want ot get back to her, or him and you are looking for answers - is ther a proven way to doing that? Well you are not alone, nor are you the first person who goes through this. But before you charge her and try to persuade her to get back together, maybe you should take a step back and relax a little before you make any rash decisions.

When I wanted to get back with my girlfriend, I took it one step at a time, and went through a process of self evaluation and decision. I recommend you do the same and this way you will know that your decisions were made on solid ground and not as primarily an emotional act.

Step 1 - Why do you want her back? You must take a closer and more real look into your own soul and understand why you really want to get your ex back. Don't rush this phase. It is important. If you think things through long and hard enough, you may reach the conclusion that your love is no longer there and that the only reason you want ot get back together is because you are now alone after you have gotten used to have her around. In most cases, this is not a good enough reason to get back with your ex. It's better you'll get yourself a life and start living them without her. This step is very important and you must get to the bottom of why you really want her back.

Step 2 - What went wrong the first time. If you don't determine what made the relationship breakup the first time, there is little chance you will survive a second time. Just think about it - let's say she broke up with you because you were excessively jealous . If you get back together and you don't change your behaviour, than you will surly break up again in a few weeks time. That's why it's important to see what went wrong and to commit to change that. Oh, and in most cases, the person who has to change is you...

Step 3 - Setting up a meeting. After you got through steps 1 and 2 and feel ready to make the effort, call her up and ask for a meeting. In most cases she will agree, especially if you're relationship was significant. Talk about the soul search you've done and tell her what's going to change from now on. Will it work? well, if she still has feelings for you, there is a good chance that it will. Life are not certain, we all do what we can.

Step 4 - Keep your word. If you decided to give this another chance, than you must keep your word and make an honest, ongoing effort towards becoming the man you promised to be.

So how to get your ex back is not rocket science, just a process you can go through and with a bit of luck your ex will be able to see the effort you are dedicating to make the relationship work. Good Luck.

Ron Weber is a dating expert. You can find his experiences posted at the getting an ex back blog. Just read and learn from his experiance, and try to integrate it into your own situation.

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